APTB Principles

ROOTED IN FIRST PRINCIPLES

These aren't rules. And they're not something I'm asking you to follow.

They're what I've found works in our family life. Reflections that have grown out of years of questioning the default, watching our children closely, and slowly unlearning my own urge to manage, fix, and steer.

I share them here because they've helped us. Some might resonate with you straight away. Others might feel uncomfortable at first, and honestly, that's often where the most interesting things are.

What I've noticed, again and again, is that as I've done my own inner work and started clearing my conditioning, most of these ways of being have come naturally. They don't feel like discipline. They feel like relief.

All of these ‘resolutions‘ will at some point be broken. Sometimes because we experiences a weak moment of our habits taking over and sometimes - and this is the powerful part - because we have let go of a deep rooted drive and it was actually the right thing to do in that particular moment. You will know that it was the correct thing to do when you feel in peace with yourself after having acted ‘against these principles‘ ;-)

Take what's useful. Leave what isn't. This is simply our map, not yours.